My thoughts on social media?

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I took a month long hiatus from this blog and… basically all social media. I don’t necessarily group the two together (though I know many do) but I thought it would be a good rest for my spirit and give me time to nurture myself in real time, allowing for true presence of mind, body and soul in each moment. It’s so important to do, especially in today’s crazy, chaotic, over-stimulated world, and honestly, I do it often.

The truth is I just can’t stand social media. I suppose I can add it to the growing list of other un-popular opinions I hold, like my aversion to rollercoasters and my utter indifference to Beyoncé. (Seriously, I don’t get it??). I used to use instagram all the time and I actually really enjoyed it! I loved seeing photos of my friends and their children (pets and human ones too!) and I really liked snapping moments from my own life to share as well. However, as time went on and it has grown into yet another one of these *things* that becomes some sort of extension of the self – which it is NOT, by the way – I quickly became less and less interested in using it. In fact, it becomes almost disturbing the way people use things like instagram as an identity.

It’s the same way I feel about Facebook… first of all, at this point the majority of the world just sort of assumes you have one before they even ask and assume you use it. It’s assumed… which is actually really, really creepy isn’t it? Other than perhaps an ID or a cell phone, I can’t think of another single thing that we assume most people to have… and it isn’t even real. It serves as an out-of-body extension of the ego and to me, that is just dangerous and incredibly damaging.

I understand that in today’s culture it can feel like social media is your best connection to the rest of the world. But… the world is actually surrounding you, right now, every second of every moment and it’s always been there. Our evolving perception of our own “existence” troubles me, to be frank. Maybe it’s because I’m an old soul or because I often feel like an outsider looking in, but I just don’t see it as a positive influence on human kind – though in some ways it has proved to be an incredible way to spread word about current events to those who don’t actively seek out information on their own!

I should add that I do in fact have accounts with various social media platforms like instagram, facebook and twitter and I hope I don’t offend anyone who actively uses these in their daily lives, because I sometimes use them myself! I just feel like it’s so important that we begin to re evaluate the way  we hide behind these platforms and depend on them for our own validation and self-worth. Try stepping away from facebook for a day, then two, until you realize you actually don’t need to use it at all, because your friends and family are all out there in the real world for you to connect with. Take time to re-connect with your self. Your true self.

I did miss blogging so I hope to jump back in! I do love that the internet has made the world a bit smaller and allows us to make connections with people across the globe. I love that I get to find others out there with similar beliefs, discover new ones or even share my own. In this respect, it’s an incredible tool and I plan on continuing to use it that way. I feel myself pulling more and more inward these days so in full disclosure, this may not be the last rant of its kind here!  But, anyway, my original intention for this post was to share a simple OOTD and a quick catch up… so, I had a great halloween, hope you all did too! I dressed as Lorelai and Britt was Luke, and that was followed recently by an awesome vegan Thanksgiving that I thoroughly enjoyed. I work in retail so life has been chaotic but exciting all the same… For my day off today I went straight for my basics with a thrifted pleated skirt, black bowler hat, black high highs, thrifted black ankle boots and an old blouse. Also can’t leave out my cozy oversized cardigan and thrifted plastic-snake-skin purse. I love it. I have this bizarre affinity for faux snakeskin that I just can’t shake!img_0771img_0846img_0819

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OctOOTD 10/29

 

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What a special day it is. 10-29 has always held significance for me as it is my Mother’s birthday and a mothers birthday is not something to take lightly! It is because of their strength, sacrifice and very existence that we have the arduous privilege to walk this earth and therefore it is truly a day worth celebrating! Today, however, turned out to be very special for a different reason.

An unexpected nearly week-long trip out of town for work set me back a bit in way of fall joy and halloween spirit… I always try to partner my work-related frustrations with a healthy sense of gratefulness and achievement. I should be grateful for chances to learn, grow and succeed… I should be. Though I don’t always see it that way.

I got home just in time for the last weekend before halloween to really dive in the deep end and though I got off to a rocky start, allowing pangs of anxiety over come me, I eventually settled back in to my usual flow. What helps most is being able to spend some time with Britt – My boyfriend of nearly 5 years, by the way… I mention his name all the time though a proper introduction has probably gone amiss. At the end of the day, just getting to spend time with him feels like a huge weight off my shoulders. We are both so busy it’s difficult for our paths to cross. If it wasn’t for the fact that we lived together we would likely miss each other entirely for weeks on end!

Today, though, we sat together in the beautiful late-October sun and had a long lunch downtown, finally having the time to just sit and talk before grabbing coffees from Malaprops and heading to the Farmer’s Market to pick up more of our favorite jam. The WNC Farmers Market was pure magic today. The maple trees were glowing a bright, firey orange as if they were all delicately ablaze and gracefully shed their leaves like tiny floating embers. It was all in slow motion and filled every second and every ounce of my existence with the pure joy that only nature and good company could. Our lovely few hours together quickly came to an end as he had to run into work, but it was still exactly what I needed. Today is such a special day… a moment in time to mark the rebirth of my own happiness and sense of peace. A day to serve as a reminder of all the good that comes from sharing time and space with those we love and that we don’t have to tackle it all on our own.

So here I am, sadly unable to pay my mom a visit on her birthday but thinking of her still and allowing myself to relax today and to accept all that I can not change, because I’m not alone in any of this. Since I was out of town for about a week, I sadly fell very behind in OOTDS for this October, but here’s to finishing off this month strong! Here’s a little orange and black for you today and a little cameo from my favorite winter shoes! I just couldn’t resist.

Having to use my iphone again so sorry for the low quality…But it’s all about the clothes anyway, so who cares right??  Right! ❤

Outfit |Blouse, thrifted vintage burnt orange button up. Thrifted pleated black skirt. Old GAP black tights. Poetic Licence “Afternoon Tea” Boots.|

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OCTOOTD: 10/23

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It’s been so long since I’ve had the time to sew up a new dress! I’m so, so happy to say however that I was able to steal away a few hours the other evening to put in The Craft (1996) and finally put this great teddy bear tapestry fabric to use! I was torn between making a two piece cropped tee and aline skirt and a pinafore but ultimately, as you can see, the pinafore won. Fall and winter are obviously the greatest seasons for layers and (in my opinion) a pinafore just begs to be layered with a good button up.

The amount of fabric I used probably cost me about $6 and it took under 2 hours to make! As you can see I haven’t hemmed it quite yet but I just got too excited to be bothered with it… I had to throw it on right away and snap some iPhone photos. Just look at it! The teddys! In clothes! and hats!

|Handmade dress, thrifted black blouse, old frilly ankle socks, clarks oxford heels|img_8784-2

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OCTOOTD 10/20

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I just can’t get enough of the warm golden glow that incapsulated my tiny home today. Walking around over crunching leaves with Archer while more fell down gently on our heads and sipping coffee between bites of snickerdoodles while the autumn-sun gently beat down on my cheeks… these are the moments that matter.

I get so swept up in all the bad in this world… the cruelty and selfishness that exists, peering behind so many of our everyday luxuries. I don’t walk by fast fashion retailers and see fun, cute dresses. I see sweatshop labor, wasted resources and growing landfills. I can’t walk by packaged meat or gallons of milk at the grocery store and see “dinner”. I see the pain and suffering of thousands of farm animals every day that are enslaved and tortured by humans for our selfish gains.

These are the harsh realities behind so many everyday things. I have always had a problem with feeling things too much. Though my diet has only just gone fully vegan this year (finally!) and my shopping fast-fashion free, I have struggled my entire life with allowing the pain and suffering of this planet and its  many diverse inhabitants just WEIGH DOWN on me. No one is perfect, least of all me, so inevitably there is the pangs of guilt and frustration that creep in upon the self-scrutiny of my own bad habits and mistakes.  I can’t seem to un-see things and I can’t seem to keep them to myself… I start telling everyone I know about all the injustices in our world and how we’re the problem and I just get so overwhelmed and impassioned and I can’t seem to stop. That’s actually a big reason why I started this blog… It’s been a good outlet for me to share my love for slow fashion though I’ve been able to keep it relatively low-key. Mainly out of fear of offending anyone or coming off too strongly but the truth is I am FILLED with passion for our planet, our people and our creatures.

However, today I’m thankful to have been reminded of the good in this world and my life. The gift of nature, of safety, of health… I’m grateful for my awareness and compassion for those who suffer and endure hardship but I also need to be grateful for my own “blessings” and simple pleasures. I’m thankful to be able to walk around my own backyard with my sweet dog Archer who unlike so many poor pups has a warm bed and a family that absolutely adores and spoils him. I’m so thankful for the peace and quiet of a day off, especially on a day as beautiful as this. So, overall today I am just feeling thankful and while it’s important to care and take action, you can’t lose sight of the good and important aspects of your life and your day. Even the smallest most insignificant moments and feelings of joy matter.

So, I apologize for the length of this blog post and it’s likely that many of you didn’t even read this far but I hope this was a good chance to get to know me on a bit of a deeper level and if you can relate, hopefully serve as a reminder for yourself as well. So here’s to keeping a balanced mind and a balanced heart. Thanks for reading. ❤

 

|Dress: old f21 dress handed down by a friend, Knee socks: old, Boots: thrifted vintage zip up ankle boots|img_0586img_0454octootd201img_0467

OCTOOTD 10/12

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An extremely average, everyday outfit for me featuring all of my typical staples:

ALL BLACK. BABYDOLL DRESS. SOCKS. BOOTS. (though you can’t see ’em).

Everyone has their “suit” and… this is mine, no matter the season. The only thing I wished I had today was a black beret! I suddenly realized today amongst all the hats I have that is one item I have yet to come across. I suppose it’s because I am so picky when it comes to finding staple pieces like that… after all, our staples are what we wear MOST so it has to be absolutely perfect! (If anyone stumbles upon the perfect vintage black beret online somewhere, send me a link! Bonus for any gold detailing!)

Anyway, while I have truly immersed myself in all the everyday perks of autumn, I have for some reason or another not gotten in the halloween spirit yet. Who am I??? It’s okay though, I’m diving RIGHT in with some good books and spooky movies to catch up. Today I started “Something Wicked This Way Comes” by Ray Bradbury and it’s my first time reading it. Yas! Much excite! Very spook! Next up, some Exorcist and/or Poltergeist ❤

|Thrifted f21 dress, old black thigh high socks, big hairbow for a bowtie|

OCTOOTD 10/11

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Just spent the day outdoors with Britt trying to tucker out the pup and wound up tuckering myself out too! I think I’ll be settling in now for the evening and do a bit of organizing in my office.

The days are getting shorter, crisper, cozier…. I want to soak up every moment of it and meet each new breath of fresh autumn air with a sip of hot coffee or a warm mug of apple cider. I just want to live within that sweet smell of cinnamon and nutmeg that continuously grows and grows seeping out from the oven. Love love love the season we find ourselves in!

Autumn is just so COZY. For that reason I’ve found myself reaching for more relaxed silhouettes, casual tops and loose layers the past few days. Today I resurfaced this plaid shift dress I got last year and layered it with this oversized lightweight utility jacket. Neither of these things do much for my figure but today I DIDNT CARE! It was loose and comfortable and it’s just how I felt best today, rompin’ around with the dog at the park.

Wore these with basic black tights and my two favorites, a red thrifted bowler and vintage lace up boots. img_9820img_9757img_9639

OCT-OOTD 10/6

As I pretty much expected, I didn’t post at all while romping through Philadelphia with Britt this past week. Any time we travel we spend so much time immersing ourselves into the cities we visit, seeing every site, sitting in every park and trekking through every neighborhood scouting out the best coffee, beer and/or food in the area. We spend SO much time in the thick of it, there’s never any time left or energy left for documentation. We try and take a good photo here and there but we just spend so much of our time living and being present, it’s easy to forget. I’ve always been interested in daily blogging or even vlogging but I have such difficulty reminding myself to document it all! So, I had some hopes of staying active on the blog while I was gone but alas, I am who I am!

While it’s great to be able to look back on your life through photos and videos, it’s also really important to experience the now. BE PRESENT! Stop worrying about instagramming every day or snapping every moment, just live. With that being said, I don’t have the most exciting content to share on this post, but regardless here’s another OCT-OOTD tourist-style!

  • Navy blue American Apparel tennis skirt – I ended up wearing this nearly EVERY day and is quickly becoming a staple in my everyday wardrobe. Though we live in the mountains of North Carolina and have similar weather to the north, it was a bit chillier than expected when we first arrived in Philly and the weight of this skirt paired with basic black tights was perfect for the October chill.
  • Thrifted denim jacket with my “crying at the party” Stay At Home Club patch. Pretty much my favorite jacket these days.
  • DETECTED Skyrim t-shirt I snagged from an online shop over a year ago. The nerdiest t-shirt I own (not ashamed).
  • Yellow Kanken mini backpack with my cute little lace-kitty keychain Britt got me in Amsterdam. A small backpack like this is essential for travel, it goes with me everywhere.